This is a nice way to look at life. Don't try to find yourself... BE the person you want to be, MAKE things better for yourself, and CREATE a life that you want to live. People can tell you who you are supposed to be... but it honestly isn't up to them. Create your own life and create the person you most want to be.
If you don't care what others think, you'll be much better off in life. You'll be happier, stronger, and wiser. I promise. Just stand tall and brave.